It’s hard to see what’s best for you when you’re in a relationship. Love turns us blind! It’s quite easy in fact to lose ourselves and get lost. Suddenly, you forget to make time for yourself and your happiness is not priority anymore. There are many things that we give up on, because get scared of the pain of letting go of the person we love. Although, there is nothing wrong with admitting that a relationship is over. Even if you cannot conceptualize your life without this person, with time and distance, you will be able to see the relationship for what it was: toxic. Here are 10 signs that prove you were in such a toxic relationship.
We are all humans and jealousy is normal in any relationship. But, excessive jealousy is never acceptable.
2. Criticism and contempt
No one is perfect, and the closer you get to someone, the more their faults will become visible. There is nothing wrong with criticism if it aims to bring about improvement. When criticism is used as a channel to express contempt, it can make the other person feel unappreciated and valueless.
3. Arguing Without Communicating
We all know that yelling at each other leads us nowhere. It is natural to get angry and arguing is a part of communicating, but if there are no exchange of communication and no party communicates how it feels, nothing will be solved. Remember that listening is as important as communication!
4. Negative Energies
Feeling uncomfortable or tense in a relationship means that your body is reacting to the negative energy surrounding you. This negative energy can exhaust you mentally, physically and emotionally. We are sometimes forced to deal with these things, but you should not experience such stress with the person you love.
5. Ignoring Each Other
You should at least be able to tolerate the presence of your lover. If you can not even be near your partner, you should consider ending your relationship. This will quickly escalade to a very toxic relationship.
6. You Don’t Recognize Yourself Anymore
It is quite normal to change a little bit when you are in a relationship. However, remember that people around you should always be able to recognize you. Never lose your direction!
If your relationship changes you, it should only make a better person. If you feel like you’re losing yourself or if you do not recognize who you are anymore, it’s not healthy.
7. Going Nowhere
There is a difference between staying in a relationship because you are comfortable and staying because you can’t imagine your life’s appart from each others. If you think your relationship is not going anywhere, why would you waste your time?
8. Only Thinking About Your Partner’s Happiness
Once you have reached adulthood, relationships are meant for longer term. You should be able to see the potential of spending the rest of your life with your partner, otherwise, what’s the point of being in a relationship? You should want to make your partner happy, but that should go both ways. Your happiness should mean happiness and vice versa. If you are constantly trying to make your partner happy, but you get nothing back, then something in the cycle is disjointed. Happiness should be mutual.
9. Simply Not Happy Anymore
You do not have to justify why you are no longer happy. Overall, the person you are dating should make you happy. You should know that even if you do not have control over every aspect of your life and things may be falling apart, that person you decide to share your life with should make your life better. He or she helps you build your life and gives you hope that things can be as you wish.
10. Only Seeing Negative Thoughts
Relationships must evolve to last. The whole mindset of “why can not things stay that way” is not conducive to a long-term relationship. At some point, someone will want more. This is not a bad thing, but both parties must be on the same wavelength. There is nothing wrong with going to the next step: doing it is a sign of maturity.