Breaking up, divorce, rejection are all situations that cause grief for most of us. When you can not save a relationship in which you were or when your partner ends your relationship, against your will, you need a lot of strength and help to get through the pain you are experiencing and overcome this break. It is actually not easy to forget a person, even less if you have been deeply in love. Of course, time can deal with a lot of injuries, but some things can help us too. Here are some tips to help you overcome your breakup and forget about your ex.
10. Give It Some Times
Time heals all wounds. The number of times, however, depends on the individual. If it’s someone you do not plan to forget, then you’ll probably need more time than you think. The important thing is not to rush into another relationship. Slow down your pace and let time pass: take time to breathe.
9. Try to Understand Why It Didn’t Work Out
It does not matter if you have broken up or are the person who has been left behind, if you are still hanging on to your ex, you must try to be rational. Probably you were not made to be in a relationship with your ex or it was just not the right time to be in a relationship with that person. Instead of worrying about the love you have for that person, find out the reason (s) why your couple was not working and focus on them.
8. Focus on Yourself, Not on Your Ex
Remember that you are the most important person in your life. It’s like that since the day of your birth, and it will be the case until you die. This does not mean that you can not find someone in your life who is just as important as you, but it does mean that you have to let go of those who harm your happiness. It is important to forget about your ex and concentrate on you.
7. If You Start Losing Hope, Focus on The Numbers
Although time heals all wounds, it can also form new ones. Forgetting someone who represented the world for you is not a simple task. Getting to the point where you are ready to seriously meet someone else is difficult. But what is even more difficult is to realize that finding someone who is worth it is not as easy as expected. If your ex was an amazing person, you will not be able to settle for less. You will need time and luck to meet someone so extraordinary. Loneliness will surely come into play, but just remember that while there are billions of people on this planet, there are tens of thousands of potential candidates for any average person. The chances of meeting someone as good as you are not so bad if you have managed to take care of yourself since you broke up.
6. This is Part of Your Life Experience
To live is to learn. Everyone feels pain and lives rejection in his life. These are life experiences. You must try to find some comfort in your life experiences, because they are normal and aim to make you better people.
5. Be Optimist
Be positive and tell yourself that everything is going well. In a few years you will remember this experience with gratitude. It might be hard to imagine now, and yet it happens much more often than you think. You will emerge stronger and wiser from this experience. You will become more assertive and will have more chances to attract a quality partner. In fact, the thought of what your future might have been if you had stayed with the person you are crying for right now could scare you.
4. Don’t Ignore Your Feelings
Obviously, you will always have to drag your feet to work or school and pretend to that you are ok, but know that staying alone could be worst. Do not suppress your feelings. Instead, open your laptop, log in to your Google Drive, open a new document and leave it all out.
Writing a journal can be very therapeutic. When you empty your thoughts and feelings on paper (or on a computer screen), your mind can relax and recover. If you have never done this before, you will be surprised at how much better you will feel by writing simple sentences.
3. Stay Active
Sport and physical activity can heal you of your pain. When you play tennis or do cardio, all your energy and attention is concentrated on one task. In this state, it’s impossible to think about your problems or anything other than what you do. That’s why we feel so alive, so present when we do group exercise.
2. Surround Yourself With People You Love
Now that you have all your free time for you, you have more opportunities to see your friends and family. Even if you do not want to socialize, do not avoid surrounding yourself with other people. Anything that helps you focus outside of you will be useful right now.
1. Avoid idleness
Being inactive is not a good idea, even for those who do not have any particular problems in their life. When we are idle, our mind tends to turn against ourselves, to exaggerate our problems or to seek new ones, thus accentuating our bad feelings.
Sources:
- Elite Daily
- Psychologia
